Mid life is a good time to ask ourselves, how do i want the second half of my life to go? I think your point is about omission versus comission. When you imagine starting over, keep in mind the many ways things could have gone like run to counter factuls and think about bad counter factules. There's one more piece of advice from the philosopher here, cere in setia. While the feeling of loss around mid life is real, asks yourself what the alternative would be. That's something we have a hard time doing. And maybe if we did, maybe we'd be a little happier because we could remind ourselves of the things that we didn't do that could have