When Your Parents Hurt You, Did They Own and Restore the Damage?

A healthy relationship is not built on the absence of failure, but on the willingness of the parent to own and rectify the failures when they do occur. A good enough caregiver is that these ruptures are repaired through a process of reattunement and re-engagement with the child. No parent gets it right a hundred percent of the time. Parents get tired, distracted, frustrated or stressed out trying to do 100 things at once. There are times when even the best parents are not attuned or responsive. So the parent child connection ruptures frequently. It's no big deal.