Our brains are wired to blame only ourselves, which is why trama is so devastating. When i'm learning how to walk, and i stumble and fall, i have to think about hat i need to do differently. I can't go around like, blaming my mam for me stumbling and falling at the age of one. It's just, you'll never learn anything. And then as you go through life, that formula gets reinforced, right, when girls reject you. Here's something wrong with me. There's something y, somethingwrong with me. All the ors? So that's what you think, because but when once pieces exist, right? Like once other people,