We have this incompatibility in certain kinds of life-changing decisions or experiences more generally where there's an incompatibility between the cells. In some cases culturally we just don't do that you don't get a frontal lobotomy, for example. But then there are cases like choosing to have a child where there isn't a kind of dominant cultural narrative and so on. If we're what we leave it to the individual is the choice of whether or not to undergo a life-changing experience that's going to change also like what someone knows and understands or make you into a new kind of person then we're confronted with a decision problem. We lack the ability to make this the decision by ourselves