There's this tendency you described it a little bit, is there's definitely a time a timing to this. Some people never flip the switch from feeling like, oh, boy, that was suffering or painful toll, maybe there was something good in that. And they just look in the rear view mirror and think, oh, i have to do everything i can to avoid any suffering in the future. You know, i think about a grah. I wish i could draw something with a white board, but think about a graph of a line going left to right and going upward,. Just an upward trend. But if you get close enough to that line, you realizei there's moments of