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Laura - Stakki Drink Bottle

Keeshia - Crest Motion Sensor LED Night Light

Then we jump into your questions:

HOW MUCH TO SPEND ON ENGAGEMENT RING?
So I have finally found THE ONE!! After a loooong and hard few years dating a bunch of bin chickens, I finally got my penguin We have talked about marriage, done the ring sizes, I’ve shown him what I would like (which he agrees would suit me) and I’m now in a pickle. He has been married before and spent a lot of money on his first wife’s ring. She was forceful, told him which one and picked the most expensive. I have said I wouldn’t expect a super expensive ring, though I also don’t want a cheap knock off one that you can find on some websites. Should it matter about how much someone spends on a ring? I feel like knowing he did pay a lot for an ex means he can at least meet halfway so I get a good quality piece I’m going to wear forever. Should I offer to pay for some of it? He has mentioned it should be about the gesture of proposing not the price. We looked up the rings he would want and they are all around a few hundred dollars. I guess this is the standard for men’s rings and I feel maybe he’s comparing that to what I should get.

HOW DO I TELL BROTHERS GF SHES NOT IN THE FAMILY PHOTOSHOOT
I want to organise a family photo shoot with my grandma, parents, husband, baby and my brother. My grandma is in her 90s, so I really want to get a beautiful photo of our little family while we’ve still got the chance. Now, here’s where I’m a terrible person. My brother has a partner who I honestly adore . She's gorgeous, we all get along so well, and they’re really serious. But I don’t want her in the photos. The thing is, at my wedding, his ex (who was also very serious) was in every single family photo and now I can’t display any of them without it being weird. So while I truly hope this relationship lasts forever, I just want to cover my bases this time. How do I bring this up without hurting anyone’s feelings or causing drama? Is it okay to ask? And if so, what’s the least awkward way to handle it? Help a guilty gal out! P.S we have never done a family photoshoot and probably won’t do many.

SIL TOLD ME I NEVER CLEAN AT FAMILY EVENTS AND NOW I FEEL AWFUL
I am married and a mum of 3 kiddies who are 4.5, 2.2 yrs and almost 6 months! Life is hectic and busy, I just just graduated from my nursing degree and about to start my first job! I went out drinking with my husband, his brothers and one of their wives who I adore (she has no kids). She got very drunk and when I was leaving to say bye she basically told me that I am so incredibly lazy when we have family get together as I don't cook or clean up even though I always ask my mother in law if I can bring anything or help in any way which she says no. I generally clean up my own things but usually I'm sitting on the couch breastfeeding the baby or relaxing as I am so tired. My husband generally tells me to sit down and he will clean up for me. While on this drunk ramble, she was yelling at me and saying everyone talks about me and how I don't do anything. I feel so incredibly sad and cannot stop crying and feeling so worthless, any advice? How do I move forward and build that relationship back up? Also curious if I am in the wrong here?

IS IT NORMAL NOT TO CARE WHEN MY PARTNER IS SICK?
Is it normal to not care if my partner is sick or unwell? I've been with my partner for 9 years. We have a nearly 2 year old daughter. Before having her, every time he gets sick he refers to it as "man flu" and actually thinks it's a thing where men experience it worse than women. Mind you, I'm a nurse and have told him so many times man flu isn't an actual thing. It's frustrating because when I'm sick, I still do some house work around the house, maybe just the bare minimum. But when he is, the whole week is a write off for him. Now, after having our daughter, my patience and tolerance is much less when it comes to him being sick. I know he's allowed to get sick and be unwell but it's different now, we don't have the luxury to just rest and recover with an energetic toddler who we need to look after. He thinks I'm not being empathetic and cruel and maybe I am. I honestly feel like I have zero care factor when he's unwell. My priorities are different. And I know that's put a strain on our relationship. Is it just me? Will not caring affect the longevity of our relationship?

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