What's the difference between confidence that crumbles under pressure and confidence that lasts? In this episode, confidence coach Melinde shares her journey from social anxiety to building lasting self-worth through inner work rather than external validation. She reveals that what you fear others will judge you for mirrors your own self-criticism and teaches her proven methods for transforming negative beliefs and facing fears step by step.

Melinde is a top-level confidence coach, where she helps women with social anxiety to build unshakable self-trust & confidence. You might know her from her rapidly growing instagram page Growwithlinde where 740K people seek her guidance. Or from her podcast Behind The Layers, where she guides people back to their confidence essence by peeling back the layers of self-doubt, insecurity and fear. Through her 1:1 coaching, Confidence courses and Embodiment Routines she helps women to step into their most empowered selves daily.

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2:20 From Social Anxiety to Confidence Coach
5:56 What Real Confidence Actually Is
7:11 How to Heal Your Self-Image
15:10 Working With Self-Doubt
19:39 The Fear of Others' Judgment
22:32 Overcoming the Fear of Being Cringe
23:05 The Courage Exposure Method
27:18 Breaking Free from People Pleasing
29:06 Nervous System Regulation
33:33 Getting Out of Overthinking Loops
36:35 The Journey to Self-Love
40:21 Daily Embodiment Routine
46:36 Aileen's Confidence Journey
52:42 Visualization Exercise

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