i'm torn between the desire to enjoy or savour the world and a desire to save it. i use the word loser advisedly, because that word changed meaning over time. And so increasingly the answer became, if you had failed, it was bease there was something wrong with you. The boy scouts trained its charges to look for the bright side of life,. cheerfully do tasks that come your way. There can be a utility to being intentional about changing one's mood in the service of trying to accomplish things. Yes, we've oversteered. But maybe these could be moralities that we we should learn as individuals to turn on and off to some degree.