How Can We Keep Creating the Same Stories?

By the time we're 32 years old, most of our experiences are defined. 90% of our day is a bag of automatic responses that we both inherited genetically and that we've practised from experience. The quantum field is held together by nothing but energy and thought,. So if we accept that, then how can our thoughts then begin to impregnate the quantum field, so that there's a different outcome?