When i was 18 years old, and being early in my training as a sex educator, my leader told us, all your home work is to get a mirror and go look at your genitals. And again, i did not have a particularly sex naggd. Had no explicit messages in my life, a that anything was wrong with my body. So i went home and i looked it up in the medical encyclopaedia in our house. The medical en encyclopedia told me what a vagina was. And my mother told me, taught me, without saying anything, how to feel about it. From that moment on, i have known that the single greatest source of wisdom that any one has
Sex is such a big part of being human. It's how our species persists, but it's also so much more than that. So why do we feel so uncomfortable talking about it? Emily Nagoski is a sex educator who argues that learning how to talk openly about sex — and unlearning some damaging misconceptions— can give you access to a more authentic and fulfilling sex life. She has a Ph.D. in health behavior, clinical internship experience at the Kinsey Institue, and is the author of the best-selling book “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman