How Does Separation From Parents Affect Your Self Perception?

The author says separation from parents often involves setting new boundaries, improving the capacity for communication and sorting through all of the subtle and over ways in which one's parents and siblings affect one's self perception. The goal is self knowledge, self reliance, self love, and self trust and improved intimacy with others. "When people feel shame as regards to their parents, whether about their parents or in front of their parents, it can be very hard"