When Is a Prayer Aunt?

Five years ago, when i was trying to leave what i considered an ling narcisistic husband, i jumped into a place, even though there was mould. I told myself, i'm not a body, i am free blaboba, but i couldn't live there. And here i have what i consider a narcisistic, controlling landlord. So am i being given a lesson to repeated? But then i get confused, cause i feel ik, well, maybe i'm just activating the past. Do you know the difference between this is a lesson you need to take again and do better this time, or stop, don't activate the past?"