i've argued in the past that if you want to proselytize, either ideologically or religiously, it requires a great sense of apathy. And so i came to believe that actually, as a human being, forget a aprotestantiseer, empathies are really good, good things to strive for. Understanding why this person feels the way they do is very important. I think one has to be aware of the mode that the other people at the dinner party are,. Some people just want to banter; others just want to have a nice meal. It's not like come for the food and stay for the education. They didn't come to learn a lesson about the minimum