What's the Eggshell Plaintiff Doctrine?

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The legal doctrine of taking your victim as you find them is fascinating. After we've accepted consequences, no matter how sensitive or fragile the other person was, then comes the apology - and it's so interesting all the way at the end. The harm doers are baffled right in the beginning because they didn't do something out of character. They did something in character. And by the time we get to the apology, we are of a different character. We look back on our previous self and can have sorrow for what we did. That means not, oh, I got caught, but I shouldn't be saying, "I'm sorry"

1. Why we should stop expecting people to forgive.

2. Rabbi Danya’s five step-by-step process for repairing a relationship.

3. What makes a good – and a terrible – apology.

4. What to do (and to not say) if you want to make amends and change.

5. Why repentance is a process that has nothing to do with the one who was hurt.

About Rabbi Ruttenberg:

Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg is an award-winning author of 8 books, including On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World. She serves as Scholar in Residence at the National Council of Jewish Women, and her writing has appeared in the New York Times, the Atlantic, Salon, Time, Newsweek, and many other publications.

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