How to Stop Hating Your Ex

Harriet: It's very hard to stop hating our ex because the hate, the anger keeps us connected to that person. We have this unconscious fantasy that if we just hang on to our justified rage ... then the other person will finally get it. Harriet: When we leave the anger behind and we stop clinging to this angry internal dialogue, we also give up the fantasy of obtaining justice. And we give up the false hope of a wish for future. But what we gain is the ability to live in the present and to, to move on, to moveon in a real way.