How to Be a Nice Guy Without Becoming an Expert Jerk

Being a nice guy is one topsy toxic extreme being an asshole jerk is another toxic toxic extreme. I think both are interacting with the world from the fight flight freeze mechanism. And what nice guys typically do to manage their anxiety is they try to control people and situations through the flight freeze or fawn behavior, we just run away from things when we hunker down and don't rock the boat. So finding the tipping point between this extreme of managing anxiety in this man, there is no, there's no healthy balance between those two all of those are just being in the fight mechanism. To do something different we have to come up to another plane another level. We can speak more clearly about