Human beings tend to attribute the behavior to other people, that other people engage in to their own psychology. For example, i've had relationships where people will get upset with me because i don't like call or tex them on a regular basis. And for some people, calling or texting on a regularly basis is a sign of caring about another person. So there's a behavior, and what that behavior means, the intention behind that behaviour, the meaning of that behavior, is different to different people.