How Do We Break Through Someone's Fantasy?

The world is actually much more complex and nuanced and requires discussion and thought how do you break through someone's fantasy so that we can have that discussion well it used to be that you sent them to the university so they could study the humanities that's the last thing you should do now. i feel like i'm bashing my head a bit against a brick wall because half most of the time when i'm caught in an argument with with these idea ideologues they are arguing like i say with a monster they've created in their own heads  I'm not the person they think i am i don't have the values they think i have and therefore the the discussion is stymied from the