In psychiatry, what's happening is where disempowering people by making excuses for them. I once had a patient who took all there was to be adherent with by polar treatment, went to an international conference and became manic because their sleep got messed up. And i think that's when my patients do really well. If you're the narcissustic family member, the main thing to understand is watch what you're why you're doing what you're doing. When you start manipulating people, right? Like, understand what you're trying to get out of it. Wh what's your end goal? And just pay attention to that process.