Why Sex IQ Shifts You From Performance to Presence

Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration.

She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being.

This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence

• Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do

• Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now

More Dr. Emily:

 • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide

• Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

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Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE) 

Embodiment:

• LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com

• Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com.

• Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe 

Health:

• Bathmate Hydro Pump-  Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com

• HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com

• V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com 

• Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com 

Collaboration: 

• Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com 

• LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com 

• Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave 

Self- Knowledge:

• Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand 

• Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off 

• SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx 

Self- Acceptance: 

• The Class - Head to theclass.com 

• Droplette- Head to droplette.io

This episode is sponsored by… 

Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/ 

Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction

1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework

2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment

10:23 - Pillar 2: Health

17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration

24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge

29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance

34:21 - Wrap-Up