If our exercise and healthy eating inner dialogue reflects a conflict between participating with the people we feel most connected to, well, that is an automatic setup to fail. We are for anything in human nature motivated to align with our families to participate. And then we're talking about rebellion. Another really common one is perfection. So looking at the chocolate cake, it's not it's a black or white, it's can I have it or can't I have it? It's the can't is a perfect world. That sets us up when we look at our choices: am I going to run for 45 minutes or walk for 40 minutes like I planned? Or nothing?