A, i don't know. But i'll tell you the process for finding a better solution. The process first would be to understand the limits of what parenting can do compared to eugenes and their other outside experience. So education on that point is very big. Secondly, a b test. This may answer for everything. And one of the things test would be group parenting. That's something that accidentally happened in my life. In my first marriage, just by a complete coincidence, the two step kids had friends who,. there were two, two in the family that were the same es and same genders. There were four or so families they had kids that were same age, best friends