119: Doing vs. Being: The Missing Key to Porn Recovery
No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery
The 30-Day Phone-and-Presence Challenge
Jake introduces his 30-day challenge: morning/evening tech fasts and silent workouts to restore focus and presence.
Do you ever feel like your mind just won’t stop racing?
Like you’re constantly doing—working, scrolling, thinking, striving—but rarely being present?
If you’ve ever felt trapped in busyness, anxiety, or mental chaos, this episode might be one of the most important you’ll ever hear.
In this solo episode, I explore one of the most overlooked truths about porn addiction recovery: your addiction isn’t just about sexual compulsion—it’s about disconnection. A restless, overstimulated brain craves relief. Porn becomes the shortcut.
But the real problem runs deeper.
Our constant distraction, productivity obsession, and dopamine overload keep us stuck in the same cycle of craving and shame.
When your brain never stops seeking stimulation, it can’t access stillness, focus, or peace. And that lack of presence doesn’t just feed addiction—it weakens your relationships, your masculinity, and your spiritual connection.
In this episode, I share:
- The neuroscience behind mental chaos and why an underactive prefrontal cortex keeps you craving porn.
- The hidden ways your phone, productivity, and social media feed the same dopamine system as pornography.
- How to break free from attention fragmentation and rewire your brain for calm focus.
- A 30-Day Challenge to restore balance between doing and being—and how this shift can heal your mind, your marriage, and your soul.
- Practical mindfulness and embodiment tools to ground your masculine energy and rebuild self-leadership.
- Why your relationship with stillness determines your ability to connect—with yourself, with others, and with God.
I’ll also share my own recent experience detoxing from technology—what it revealed about my mind, my family, and the subtle addictions hiding behind constant busyness.
If you’re ready to go beyond willpower and understand the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of true freedom, this episode will help you build the presence and balance you’ve been missing.
Because overcoming porn addiction isn’t just about quitting a habit—it’s about retraining your brain to live differently.
It’s time to stop running and start being.
Link to Blog Article for this Episode
If you’re ready to build the mindset and lifestyle that lead to long-term freedom from porn addiction, visit NoMoreDesire.com and apply for my 1-on-1 Porn Addiction Recovery Coaching Program. You’ll gain the structured tools, accountability, and training you need to transform not only your habits—but your heart.
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