The whole reason you're lying is to avoid conflict. By avoiding the conversation, all you're going to do is create more anxiety for yourself. You can even send a tex message and say, h i wanted to let you know this. I'd appreciate if we could talk about it. And then lay your boundary with them. Be careful about how you lay it. Conversations are ideal, even though they most be may be the scariest. But remember that just because it's scary, that can actually be a point in your favor, because you're learning to tolerate.