I had a miscarriage when we first moved here. And it was my second one that I've had since we've been trying to have a kid. So there's been and we'll talk more about that later, but there there has been a lot of life in the last four months. It is helpful to have people be like, no, this is understandable. You feel this way. Okay. But I feel this way? The first step is to surrender to like, okay, I feel thisway instead of resisting and spinning out of control about how I wish I felt different. Can I just surrender to the fact that I feels this way? This is how I feel. And allow it