Tut: You need to understand your parents value system. Understand what matters to them. Understand how to have conversations with them. If you want to deal with your inner criticritical voice, which you need to look at is your feelings of guilt and anger at yourself for not wanting to be what your parents want you to be. Tut: I've worked with a lot of people from south asian, east asian, african, less so lattino, but households who have to set expectations with their family members. And it does work. Like you'll find a way, right? Lik, keep at it. Don't give up. Believe in yourself.