Speaker 3
definitely would like to have them responsible for helping to get this place back on track, cleaner, more organized. I want them to have a say in the activities that they do choose. I
Speaker 2
would love for them to have a place to put their stuff.
Speaker 3
I want them to be happy too when they're here. I want them to take pride in their home. I want us to take pride in our home. I know it's not ideal, but it's our home for now. And what
Speaker 1
would be the word you would use to describe this situation of your household, the physical situation? Yes.
Speaker 1
that how you want to feel at home?
Speaker 1
No. Okay. No, we don't want to feel like that. Wow. That's a powerful vision. What if by, let's say 7 p.m., the house could be relatively clean? As clean as it can get with three kids. But clean. Clean so you could walk around, you won't step on a Lego. Clean enough that you and your children would take pride in your living environment. What do you think? That'd
Speaker 2
would say if ever there was a dream, that's the current dream.
Speaker 1
Okay, beautiful. I love a relevant dream that we can work on now. Okay, do you see a connection between all the stuff you buy for your kids and the chaos that is in your house? Yes.
Speaker 1
the connection? Can you just say it out loud for me it's too much stuff we
Speaker 2
have way too much stuff
Speaker 1
do you both agree or are you just saying that because you think I want to hear it oh no we say it to each other
Speaker 3
we say it all the time
Speaker 1
hold on how do you both say it all the time and then you keep buying all this stuff on Amazon
Speaker 3
and Target great question I don't have an answer for you
Speaker 2
a lot of this I mean I really don't feel like I'm being delusional either. I don't feel like the stuff that I'm buying from Target and Amazon is, it's mostly consumables on
Speaker 1
my end. It's almost like we see chaos on the CSP, chaos in the house. 100%.
Speaker 2
That is absolutely
Speaker 1
accurate. Deep relationship, deep connection. And I still notice that when I ask you both about it, you do give me some honest answers, but there's a lot of explanation. Those excuses are like quicksand. They will keep you stuck down in the weeds until you both decide, I am sick of my CSP being at 113% fixed cost. I'm sick of coming home and it looks like this and feels like this. I'm sick of feeling this way. And once you finally get there, which a lot of people, it takes in 20, 30, 40 years, maybe you will decide to make a serious set of changes. I'd like to help you get there now instead of 25 years from now. What do you think? Me too. All right. Let's take a look. I'm going back to your CSP. All right, all right. Savings are at 1%, so you're basically saving nothing. And everything else, your guilt-free spending is negative 28%, which just shows again that you are deeply, deeply in the red. I mean, look, you actually listed it out, which is more than most do. Takeout is $500 a month.
Speaker 2
Yeah, well, that includes, I'm not excusing it. I'm telling you what we threw in there was like not just Pizza Friday, but like anything that showed up as like a coffee, you know, like Dunkin' Donuts, Starbucks, which is not often, but it's there.
Speaker 1
It's often enough to be $500 in a month.
Speaker 1
a month on takeout just doesn't make sense for a couple in your situation that's it bottom line stores 186 entertainment that's 264 that's on top of 178 of subscriptions You're losing thousands of dollars every month. Yeah. Okay. What decisions that one or both of you make with your spending do you think has led to you being in this situation? Probably buying stuff for the kids. And when he sees you come home with the new bike or the new beads or the new craft stuff, what is your kid's reaction? He loves it. He loves you. Don't you think he would love you if you still didn't buy him all this stuff? Yeah. Michelle, what do you think? I
Speaker 2
think he feels like a hero. Daddy's the best. Thanks, Daddy. Love you. I think that's just how he's showing love I think that's part of how he takes care of them in his eyes is
Speaker 1
that how you show love Brian seems to me it's true probably yeah what if I said you can't spend a cent on your kids for the next year that'd
Speaker 3
be horrible I wouldn't want that. Because?
