How to Know if a Relationship Was Real Love

If you're an anxious person in relationship with an avoidant person, your work is yes, to be committed to that, but also to make sure that you're not doing all of the heavy lifting. And so as soon as it's hard, they're likely to pull away and they may be much more willing to just cut their losses and run when things get hard. You know, probably I think that even when a relationship is tumultuous or is challenging is high conflict that doesn't mean that there wasn't real love there. Maybe a lot of love there. Just because something's not secure love doesn't mean it's not real.