Sitting with the fear a canne may be the same thing as communicating. So i was once working with some one who had been in a prior relationship where their partner wasun fu with them. And so later, a couple of years later, they found a new relationship, ended up getting pregnant. They started to become really, really paranoid that their partner would start being unfaithful and not give them any reason for it. The more her belly grew bigger, the less attractive she felt, the more the peranoia got worse. She checked his phone every night when he went to take a shower. After she did that for a week, do you think she stopped? Of course not