ADHD Versus Non-Adhd Relationship - What Can I Do With My Husband?

My husband keeps telling me that I have to own up to my ADHD and he's obviously frustrated in which end with me. What baby steps can I take to start to bridge this gap in our ADHD versus non-ADHD relationship? It has to start from your spouse's value and you and from you value yourself. If you don't value your spouse, it doesn't matter what kind of list you set up or systems you set up.