Episode 132: We Didn’t Plan to Have Seven Kids: Accommodating Life w/ Barbra Bottaro
Being Human
The Process of Learning
"It's been an interesting process of learning how the initial assumptions are not reality," he says. "Instead of clinging to this assumption that has to fit into a mold, I can be open to like, what's the lesson here?" He adds: "I don't know, I was just thinking about being out in the garden with them."
This week, Dr. Greg welcomes his wife Barbra (and their baby, David) to the show for a fun episode about the joys and challenges of the vocation to marriage and the call to be generous in love!
Discussed in this episode:
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Learning how to parent as a process of trial and error, learning from mistakes, and adapting;
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Relying on God's grace and others in one’s community as necessary when navigating the challenges of family life;
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How the spirit of generosity in love that Christians are called to is being eroded by the contraceptive mentality prevalent in our culture;
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Accommodating life rather than having life accommodate to one’s desires and needs;
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The family as a community and school of love and the natural progression of having children;
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The importance of trusting God to provide for what is needed for the lives He entrusts to one’s care;
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Love as a duty, responsibility, and challenge rather than just a good feeling;
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Striving to give 100% to one’s spouse in marriage rather than relying on a 50/50 split of responsibilities;
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The importance of being intentional in noticing and caring for each child's needs as a way to teach them self-worth;
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The necessity of working through wounds from one’s family-of-origin in order not to pass them along to one’s children;
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The great need for parental love in our culture and ways that couples can love others without being a biological parent;
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Complementarity between the married and consecrated vocations and how each vocation can benefit the other.
Resources mentioned or relevant:
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A Marriage Built to Last - Dr. Greg’s 8-part relationships course;
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