Most of us recognize how important sexual communication is, yet we still struggle with it. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss a practical framework for improving your sexual communication skills. It’s called the STARS method. Using this technique will help you and your partner(s) to better understand each other and lay the groundwork for hot and healthy intimate encounters.

My guest is Dr. Evelin Dacker, the creator of the STARS method. She is a physician who specializes in sexual wellness, menopause and hormones, and vitality throughout life. Her unique approach to health incorporates pleasure as an important aspect for healing trauma and illness.

Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

What does STARS stand for? What are the key things we should be discussing with our partners?
How can we go about discovering our turn-ons and communicating them effectively?
How do you tell your partner about the things you don’t want and communicate your boundaries?
How do you make discussions about sexual health and STIs easier?
Why is it important to communicate your relationship intentions, and how do you do this?

You can check out Evelin’s website to learn more about the STARS method and follow her on the socials @sexmeddoc.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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