Are You Still Doing This?

The normal behavior is to kind of withdraw in response to somebody who is you're experiencing is threatening or critical. And vice versa, if you are in a relationship with somebody where you aren't getting your needs met, they aren't behaving in ways that make you feel loved and respected. Two people standing at the tippy-top center of that hill in any kind of relational distress will always start to fall onto one side or another with each other.