The Agonies of Love now point only to the self. It's private history and it's a capacity to shape itself. I'm seeking out dysfunctional patterns that I once had in childhood. My father was not particularly present. Therefore I'm seeking someone who has an avoidant kind of attachment style who's also not particularly present because to me that's what love looks like. Things like this. So that the kind of solution is like trying to gain self knowledge a lot of like talking to other people and you know things like this.