In my family, I am the one. Not because I wanted it or liked it, but because I was ready to fight for it and because I learned the strategies it takes to be the one. My prayer for you is for you to become the one in your family. Your Matrix is a more colloquial name for your reticular activating system (RSA) The RSA is the filter that gives weight to the important things in your life and filters out the things that are not. You're not even aware that this is happening, but it is.