How to Move on With a Relationship?

"I love this person and enjoy the time with her, but I've seen the patterns I've fallen into are deep and hard to move out from," Sam writes. "Every iteration of that relationship to me as an outsider has seemed codependent because whatever predisposed dynamics that you were carrying from one relationship life into another aren't working for either of you," she says. 'It's really hard to love someone and also know that the patterns that you're in aren't working,' he adds. "'Cyclical pickle' is a nice rhyme': The cyclical pickle."