Do You Have a Strategy of Defensiveness?

The purpose of memory is to analyze the terrible experience so that you can reconfigure your perceptions and your behavior. It's like, well, let's figure out exactly what the chain of events were that led you to be vulnerable to that catastrophe. And then you need a strategy of defence. If you meet someone like that again, how are you going to reconfigure your behaviour so that they cannot take advantage of you again? When you find these people are harbouring things, feelings, like homicidal thorns towards their tormentor ah, and they're shocked by that, what do you want to tell them about those thoughts? Well, i inment, wil.