The Death of the Ego

When patients criticize therapists they're generally hitting the therapist in a vulnerable area and we want to defend ourselves. Another problem that people have when using the disarming technique is that it involves the death of the ego. Once you've died it feels great. You join the grateful death. Because the other person lowers their defenses and then you can connect in a meaningful life. But our pride gets in the way. I don't like to admit when I fail one of my teaching seminars at Stanford when I do a bad job because it hurts my pride. It's painful to die. No one wants to die. So we cling to life by defending our ego, defending our pride. And once- Can