The Importance of Being Secure in Adulthood

As an adult, if you get into that place, sometimes it really is difficult to feel soothed. You can identify with the side of the continuum. We're already overly attuned to other people and we are sensitive to feeling rejected and abandoned. Even things like what do you want? Which restaurant would you like to go to? Like making decisions is actually quite anxiety provoking. So rather than being vigilant outside, we kind of want to turn it to vigilant inside.