Oknan: I think a generation of young women grew up with this idea of like, being sex positive and men being down for so many things. And my question is always like, wall, do you like not? Do actually like that? Because if you don't, you're now cropped in, like, you're not down. We're just being dissociated from our own sexual experience,. There's also a sight called the clit list. It was designed with survivors of sexual assault in mind; it can be an empowering thing to know that that's the community they are part of. Oknan: Anything can be triggering or activating when you've been through an assault - even porn
After experiencing multiple instances of sexual assault, Julia often feels sexually disconnected from her own body. She wants to be aware of her boundaries and find pleasure in new relationships going forward. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, and August McLaughlin, health and sexuality journalist and host of Girl Boner Radio. Together they wrote With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. They share candid, tangible advice about navigating consent and how to turn awkward conversations into something empowering — even sexy.
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