The Antidote to Not Getting What You Want Is to Diffuse the Emotional Connection

If in every relationship to an object of desire, you are miserable because youare not getting it, you get your seeking a thing in your head that, by definition, cannot happen. Even as your body is feeling pleasure, your mind is screeching against it. It's like the parking brak on your bodily engine. There is no selfish pleasure that you can accumulate. And therefore, you can live to pursue that, that social goal. You connect that physical pleasure that you experience pursuing a life earnestly.