The Importance of Pretending

In the book, you talk about having to explore this with your mother. What was that like for her? I've written a previous book about the death of my brother where I interviewed my mother and it was a totally revelatory experience. We really enjoyed it and we became much closer. And it was very moving because clearly in a couple, so they didn't agree on everything, but they had to pretend they was a united front,. So a lot of her own feelings came out, which she hadn't expressed before. It brought out a lot of other inequalities within society just in terms of the fact that she could sit there 45 years later and say, I never wanted to stand in the