I'm Going to Call Ethan, and He's Doing It on the First Date

"i had been looking for a long time for someone who could challenge me, because my last serious relationship had been with someone who worshipped the ground that i walked on," she says. "I was totally uncomfortable in my own skin." She writes about how her ex-boyfriend made her feel beautiful and let her into his 'emotional quarantine space' But he would also hurt her during sex without her consent; they eventually broke up after years of fighting.