People often tends to conflate their religious experience with a person's relationship or experience with God, which is also are also very different things. We have to be so careful that we don't say my relationship is this and so that means your relationship should be this right I would never say to someone. My marriage is so fulfilling so why isn't your marriage so fulfilling it should be better. And for other people it's not it's it's healthier for them to leave and to get out of that relationship. It's important to not see someone who leaves the church or someone who stays in the church as being closer to or farther from God.