A large part of growing up is learning who you are and a who you want to be, which are two we hope, i hope, two different things. We start off unformed in so many ways. And one of the deepest things i learned, i'd say, in the last ten years, came from a conversation with you. I my new book while problems, which is this inside of harry frankfort, that we don't just have wants or desires, we have desires about our desires. He cals them yes.