So you’re dating someone new - would you want to know if someone else had intel about them before you went on a date? Or would you want to find out if anyone had dated (or was currently dating) your long-term partner? Julie and Yue debate the pros and cons of these ‘Are we dating the same person?’ groups and if they are helpful or harmful to your dating life. We discuss the concept of paying it forward to other daters, why it doesn’t always to work to skip to the end, and how to use these groups more effectively if you do choose to engage.

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