Are You Comparing Your Relationship With Your Partner?

"At the end of the day, the comparison is the thing that we're doing to ourselves," she says. "We get to decide whether or not we want to do it anymore to, right? Like, we may be surrounded by people who are continuing to compare us but like, those people aren't in our relationship and they don't they don't know us." She suggests a house metaphor: Accepting that things are going to be different makes you feel better about them.