Scientists say that when you have benign envy following the first moment of painful envy, it's not necessarily like cheerful and rose-hued. There are other seemingly identical but distinct things that you could feel like you could just feel admiration for somebody,. Stephen: What I really liked about this way of thinking about it is that if you do a kind of like time lapse slowing down of your emotions, you'll see that it's not just one thing or depends on when you want to stop footage.