What Do You Need From Others?

When a person we love has lost some oneand we're so eager to help, and naturally, the answers don't feel clear to us. I remember texting my brother, cause he was like, i don't know what you need right now,. And i'm sorry that i don't have that clarity. Often in families, people say, i'm fine, how are you? You know, it becomes and and the the walls of protection, which are meant to protect the other person from suffering, can create gaps of connection.