Don't Poke the Bear

If we allow our emotions to run the ship, then we will oftentimes feel overwhelmed by the next step. So when some one is talking to you that you feel might be toxic or narcosistic in your mind, see a garbage can. Do not try to prove them wrong, and do not point ot their character flaws. Pointing out some one's charater flaus is only going to make that person more angry, more unpredictable and more aggravating to live with. The gold is to no longer be emmeshed with what this person thinks, what this person needs.